Prepare the children

  

Fear often stems from the unknown, which creates in us a feeling of insecurity and lack of control.

The more information we have, the more we feel in control, and this gives us confidence.

That is, the more information we provide to the child, the less we can reduce the feeling of fear - and the information we provide to him by the term.

The word derives from the root TRM - i.e. in advance - we give it the information in advance and thus prepare it.

 

How do you convey the early messages to the child correctly? Some highlights should be noted:

What we say - the content: the amount and type of information we expose it to. The younger the child, the less information we will reveal to him - only what is essential in order to instill confidence in him.

How we say - the language we use (example: do not say "it is not scary/painful" - because our brain does not hear the "no", and what is left in the child's head is "scary/painful").

When we say - adjustment in the timeline (the older the child, the longer the pre-training can be started).

Examples of pre-preparation for children (therma) and how to perform it?

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- For children who need security and a sense of control, it is recommended to routinely prepare a weekly calendar - what is going to happen every day (for example: who brings/takes from kindergarten, what to do in the afternoon).

- For children who are not yet reading we will make the board with pictures, and for children who are reading, you can of course write.

- Children who have difficulty getting organized can prepare a morning/evening board (as needed) with the actions they are expected to do,

for example: go to the bathroom, brush their teeth, get dressed, wear shoes, eat breakfast… The board can be nailed, so every morning the child will mark What did he do, or make a board that each picture hangs with velcro, and then the child hangs/lowers what he has already done.

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Term in order to deal with future difficulties:

- Before certain situations (for example visiting relatives / staying with grandparents), it is advisable to talk to the children, explain to them what is expected of them (as mentioned, use positive language, for example: do not say: “Do not go crazy ", But:" During the meal, sit calmly at the table "/" Listen to what grandparents say ").

- Children we know who have difficulty in certain situations, we will encourage them to seek help (for example: if your cousin is harassing you you come to me / your aunt and tell us), and we will think with them in advance about solutions (for example a child who has a hard time sitting at the table/rabbi With his cousins ​​- you can offer to choose an activity in advance, and even bring from home a game/creation that he likes - and this is what he will do when faced with the same difficulty).

 

Pre-special events

When there is a known change in advance (for example: entering a new kindergarten / going to school, moving house, the birth of a brother…) the children must be prepared in advance by talking, books/videos and getting to know the new things as much as possible (Example: getting to know new friends who will be with him, getting to know the new environment, the teacher/teacher).

- For the purpose of preparing for a medical event (such as surgery/examination), the child is given information adapted to his age. For example: before surgery: you can watch a preparation video for children, explain to him about the clothes he will wear, the tubes he will see and what their function is, the anesthesia, what will happen before and after. All this of course using appropriate language that instills confidence.

Termination especially helps children with emotional and/or behavioral difficulties but contributes to all children.

Try and see if the termination also contributes to your child. A good and correct term will bring with it or increase the feeling of calm and security!